My biggest frustration...."half-assing it"
Happy Hump Day My Lovelies!
So yesterday I told you about how good it makes me feel knowing that people are looking to me for advice and motivation. Better than good actually...I'm not quite sure there is a word for it, so I will make it up Fan-Fit-Tastic!
Today I want to talk to you about the frustrations I feel. The Renew Seminar I went to last week talked about the "Disconnect" that people have. I see this every stinking day. It's soooooo frustrating. I feel like beating my head against a wall. I have talked about my "A-Ha" moment. That moment when it finally hit me just how badly I abused my body. It is a SUCKY moment. It is a heartbreaking moment. It is a gut wrenching moment. I always knew what I was doing was wrong, but my denial and low self-esteem kept me from acknowledging it.
Until that "A-Ha" moment you could have talked to me until you were blue in the face about how crappy I was doing, but I would Never EVER listen to you. I would actually get mad and hurt and push myself further into the deep end. "They don't know what they are talking about. I am perfectly fine. That's a load of crap. They don't KNOW me." *insert oreo cookie*
I needed to be ready to face it. I needed to be ready to accept responsibility. I needed to make the first step. No one could push me into a change. I had to do it myself.
So here I am watching people make the same mistakes I made day after day. No matter what I say, they don't care. They don't listen. They are not ready. I don't want to push and have them hate me. I want them to see the light. I want them to realize they are slowing killing themselves needlessly. I want them to know there is hope. But they aren't ready.
So here's the "Disconnect". I like to call it "Half-Assing" it. Bringing a cheeseburger to a healthy eating seminar. Going out for pizza right before a Yoga class. Drinking Coke while eating a salad. Stopping for fried chicken on the way home from the gym. Don't ask me for advice and then provide a list of excuses when I ask how you about your progress. Are you seeing my frustration?
I see people complaining about how tight their pants are getting. Well put down the cookie and go for a walk. I have family members on High Blood Pressure medication. I don't want that to be me. The doctors will tell you that proper nutrition and exercise will help reduce high blood pressure. I do not want to rely on that medication for the rest of my life. Think of the money I can save! I'm going to Hawaii! Tony Stewart Call Me! Meet me there.
So I don't want to become the overly aggressive Health Nazi and have people hate me and push me away. I just want the people I love to live a healthy life. It's that simple. I even want the people I don't know to live a healthy life. *Ironically I have the Coca-cola song running through my head right now... I'd like to teach the world to sing...in perfect harmony...Only I would make it "I'd like to teach the world to eat and just be healthy"*
So if you get an email, text, phone call, or in your face yell of "NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO" it's because I care :-)
****Please note****
If you feel like you are alone on your journey and you just need some encouragement I am here for you! Shoot me an email and I will do my best to check in on you or give you the words of support you need several times a week. The journey is so much easier if you have support. jhendersonfit@gmail.com
So yesterday I told you about how good it makes me feel knowing that people are looking to me for advice and motivation. Better than good actually...I'm not quite sure there is a word for it, so I will make it up Fan-Fit-Tastic!
Today I want to talk to you about the frustrations I feel. The Renew Seminar I went to last week talked about the "Disconnect" that people have. I see this every stinking day. It's soooooo frustrating. I feel like beating my head against a wall. I have talked about my "A-Ha" moment. That moment when it finally hit me just how badly I abused my body. It is a SUCKY moment. It is a heartbreaking moment. It is a gut wrenching moment. I always knew what I was doing was wrong, but my denial and low self-esteem kept me from acknowledging it.
Until that "A-Ha" moment you could have talked to me until you were blue in the face about how crappy I was doing, but I would Never EVER listen to you. I would actually get mad and hurt and push myself further into the deep end. "They don't know what they are talking about. I am perfectly fine. That's a load of crap. They don't KNOW me." *insert oreo cookie*
I needed to be ready to face it. I needed to be ready to accept responsibility. I needed to make the first step. No one could push me into a change. I had to do it myself.
So here I am watching people make the same mistakes I made day after day. No matter what I say, they don't care. They don't listen. They are not ready. I don't want to push and have them hate me. I want them to see the light. I want them to realize they are slowing killing themselves needlessly. I want them to know there is hope. But they aren't ready.
So here's the "Disconnect". I like to call it "Half-Assing" it. Bringing a cheeseburger to a healthy eating seminar. Going out for pizza right before a Yoga class. Drinking Coke while eating a salad. Stopping for fried chicken on the way home from the gym. Don't ask me for advice and then provide a list of excuses when I ask how you about your progress. Are you seeing my frustration?
I see people complaining about how tight their pants are getting. Well put down the cookie and go for a walk. I have family members on High Blood Pressure medication. I don't want that to be me. The doctors will tell you that proper nutrition and exercise will help reduce high blood pressure. I do not want to rely on that medication for the rest of my life. Think of the money I can save! I'm going to Hawaii! Tony Stewart Call Me! Meet me there.
So I don't want to become the overly aggressive Health Nazi and have people hate me and push me away. I just want the people I love to live a healthy life. It's that simple. I even want the people I don't know to live a healthy life. *Ironically I have the Coca-cola song running through my head right now... I'd like to teach the world to sing...in perfect harmony...Only I would make it "I'd like to teach the world to eat and just be healthy"*
So if you get an email, text, phone call, or in your face yell of "NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO" it's because I care :-)
****Please note****
If you feel like you are alone on your journey and you just need some encouragement I am here for you! Shoot me an email and I will do my best to check in on you or give you the words of support you need several times a week. The journey is so much easier if you have support. jhendersonfit@gmail.com
I can see your frustration. But until they get their "A-Ha" moment too, there's not much you can do but just offer support when they ask. I guess that's all part of being a mentor. I think it's great that you are such a wonderful mentor to all these people though. Your blog inspires me every time I read it. =)
ReplyDeleteThanks. It makes it easier knowing that I have all of you :-) ps-love your blog too
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